Broddie time OOTD/ short haircuts

Hey loves, today am bringing you an ootd inspired by my dear brother and my hair cut. This might sound a lil confusing but lately i have been envying my lil brothers closet. I used to be the one inspiring him to dress better but it seems the teacher has become the student. from now on am going to be using him to show a guy prospect in fashion  while I  still represent the ladies as usual. ok so less talk let me show you.

Sandals- Justfab

shoes-puma

Pants- Pacsun

Shirts- Forever 21 Men

Shoes- Justfab

Tights- Ebay

Relationships/late night thoughts

what kind of relationship do we really deserve? Have you ever gotten to the point where you ask yourself that question? well today I have come to answer that question and hopefully get other opinions on it. At the moment I wrote this, I had just talked to an ex potential boyfriend cutting him off from ever becoming one just from a repetition of things he does that annoy and can't be tolerated in my book. now most of you might start thinking why am going hard on a guy that you're not dating? Because I like to know them very well in different scenarios before putting myself in a hot sit. I'm all about the friendship first before anything else rule.

story time. so it started out like this, a girl walks into Walmart, a man stops her gives her a compliment then asks for her number after a few awkward lines of conversation. girl doesn't think the man is handsome for her taste but also does not rudely make him feel rejected. The girl observes every little aspect from the way he talks to the way he opens the door for the lady at the door. girl sees his nice car even thou he doesn't know she sees her. Girl goes home, boy texts girl they start talking, girl realizes the boy is legit qualified as a man she wants in life but the only thing is, she is not attracted to him. 

reality check! girl starts thinking how this is happening, how he can be so perfect but miss that one thing, she start discouraging herself, her goals, standards. Its the middle of the night and she can't sleep then she gets a text from the guy she was talking to who definitely has the looks and the charm but nothing else she wants a man to have yet she tries to give this douche bag a chance and leave the not so attractive guy with a well put together live (shit together) a chance. 

Girl started thinking putting pieces together and realizes her life goals missions people she wanted to be surrounded with have changed. She then starts asking herself all these questions about life, relationships and the fucking future she had dreamt of. since she mainly focused on relationships from all that realization, she dumps mr good looks with no future plans but still does not bring mr  unattractive with a bright future to board. 

Although this might be a sad turn out, girl realizes the ppl that she surrounded herself with had affected the bright future and goals she was chasing. She had just slowly settling down for less until mr unattractive came by and opened her eyes to what she could still get to achieve. 

in this case, we are talking about a girls whose standards were so high and well set but the people she surrounded herself with had low standards or were starting not to care so much for them that she also  fell into the pressure to follow the crowd. It was until she got a rude awakening of the situation she was getting herself into and that whatever she had before could still be as she wanted that she got back on track. Even thou it feels like she is now back to zero, its better than where she was headed to settle below zero.

it might sound like a metaphor... my brain does this at night. comment down if you ever feel this way or its just me stuck in the struggle.

How to Manage Stress pt 1

We live in a world where there is just soo much going on that many tend to forget about themselves and their health.

what am getting at is, we all deserve some happiness. To start why don't we start with smiling a little. Did you know that a fake smile and a real smile create the same effect in your body. Your body can't differentiate the difference between them two. So no matter how much pain or anger push out that fake smile it will do you some good. This is has been proved by research. IT AIN'T ALL BULLS***


They don't say laughter is the best medicine for nothing.  why do you think children are so much happier. They laugh at least 400 times a day while adults average 15 laughs a day. Most people including me always say how free childhood was and no worries with bills and stress. what if we just started by taking some time and atleast try and smile or laugh as much as possible thru the day. That we make a difference.

I'm not talking about just randomly bursting out a laugh but watch a comedy if you have free time, take a sec and go on twitter or instagram and read some funny memes.

There is just so many places or ideas that can make people happy.

let me know if this helped so I can write more into this blog.

Happy Valentine's Day 2014

so as a single lady today this day was supposed to be depressing and sad but once again it wasn't. well now that have said it like that, sounds like I wanted it to be sad lol. Anyways, I had to work today but my lovely co- worker brought me some goodies and in return I made a good Kenyan meal for him lol. It was sweet. That although didn't last long since we had to get back to work. I still got dressed for the occasion thats is valentine but toned it down so that I could work in it and still go out later from work without going home to change and all that nonsense. later I got movies and some wine ice cream and popcorn with my lovely self lol. It has been quite a great day.