OOTD Vacay Black and White Party

"you can't choose what life throws at you but you can choose how you react to it". I enjoyed this party, the music was great, the company was nice and the picture were a topping.  What would you wear to a black and white party? check out the pics

Relationships/late night thoughts

what kind of relationship do we really deserve? Have you ever gotten to the point where you ask yourself that question? well today I have come to answer that question and hopefully get other opinions on it. At the moment I wrote this, I had just talked to an ex potential boyfriend cutting him off from ever becoming one just from a repetition of things he does that annoy and can't be tolerated in my book. now most of you might start thinking why am going hard on a guy that you're not dating? Because I like to know them very well in different scenarios before putting myself in a hot sit. I'm all about the friendship first before anything else rule.

story time. so it started out like this, a girl walks into Walmart, a man stops her gives her a compliment then asks for her number after a few awkward lines of conversation. girl doesn't think the man is handsome for her taste but also does not rudely make him feel rejected. The girl observes every little aspect from the way he talks to the way he opens the door for the lady at the door. girl sees his nice car even thou he doesn't know she sees her. Girl goes home, boy texts girl they start talking, girl realizes the boy is legit qualified as a man she wants in life but the only thing is, she is not attracted to him. 

reality check! girl starts thinking how this is happening, how he can be so perfect but miss that one thing, she start discouraging herself, her goals, standards. Its the middle of the night and she can't sleep then she gets a text from the guy she was talking to who definitely has the looks and the charm but nothing else she wants a man to have yet she tries to give this douche bag a chance and leave the not so attractive guy with a well put together live (shit together) a chance. 

Girl started thinking putting pieces together and realizes her life goals missions people she wanted to be surrounded with have changed. She then starts asking herself all these questions about life, relationships and the fucking future she had dreamt of. since she mainly focused on relationships from all that realization, she dumps mr good looks with no future plans but still does not bring mr  unattractive with a bright future to board. 

Although this might be a sad turn out, girl realizes the ppl that she surrounded herself with had affected the bright future and goals she was chasing. She had just slowly settling down for less until mr unattractive came by and opened her eyes to what she could still get to achieve. 

in this case, we are talking about a girls whose standards were so high and well set but the people she surrounded herself with had low standards or were starting not to care so much for them that she also  fell into the pressure to follow the crowd. It was until she got a rude awakening of the situation she was getting herself into and that whatever she had before could still be as she wanted that she got back on track. Even thou it feels like she is now back to zero, its better than where she was headed to settle below zero.

it might sound like a metaphor... my brain does this at night. comment down if you ever feel this way or its just me stuck in the struggle.

WHAT CAN I WEAR TO A DATE

Well I have some ideas. Recently I made a video on youtube on this idea if you would like to check it out, there should be a link somewhere on this blog. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HA71eIvg4xA&feature=c4-overview&list=UUvQzj-e2LltqjmWROG0lYJg
Here is some inspiration.

WHAT INSPIRES PEOPLE/ MYSELF

Hope no one is not breathing in other words in good health if not please do get well. So I just wanted to list a few things that inspire not only me but others. How do you feel when somebody has gone thru a tougher time than you and still holding herself better than you. when you humble yourself either with a lot to give or barely nothing it shows a lot. Going out your boundaries to help someone showing some kindness to anyone inspires others. some get inspired through reading books.  Just remember the last time you seen someone and you said to yourself, "how does he or she do it". whoever they are what was it that they did or said that made you feel that way about them. The world is full of inspiration you just got to find what you can do to make you one of those people you look up to. Stop wishing and do. If everyone was just the same did the same things and everything never changed, the wouldnt be as advanced as it is now. so go online or write down what you want to accomplish, what it will look like to others like your family kids and the public, then decide if thats what you wanna do. over all be happy with whatever you decide. Do not let anything hold you back. Conquer all. Be passionate about what you're.most people only get inspired by you after you have gotten to the top. so make sure you have painted that picture for people to see then teach then your ways so they can learn and be inspired. Here are some other ways people inspire others or get inspired. 

1. Positivity 
2. Leadership 
3. Humbling moments
4. Have a vision then paint the picture  
5. Kindness 
6. Pulling through a struggle (strength)
7. Knowledge is a big factor of inspiration
8. Researching what your good at and how it can influence others to better themselves 
9. Happiness 
10. Passion in what you decide to do.
11. Enthusiasm says a lot 
12. Care about people and Encourage them 
13. The truth will set you free 

• GOD IS THE FIRST & LAST. without Him we are not much.  may you be blessed and hope this was inspiring to anyone. love you.